Man oh man, am I a mess! I swear, it feels like everything wrong that could possibly happen, is happening.
It has not been a fun start of the year. It’s actually been absolutely terrible.
Each morning that I wake up, slump out of bed, and face the day surprises me. I’m like “How are you even functioning?”
The truth is, some days I don’t function. But I’ve made it through each terrible, shitty, experience because I have my ways to cope.
Coping mechanisms can be so relieving. At least, for me they have been.
And if you are going through something difficult, and have the capability to try one of these out, give it a go. What do you have to lose?
- Artsy Fartsy?
I’ve always loved to do art. I especially love painting. My family has been really supportive in providing an environment to express myself. Granted, that environment is the dining room table, but it’s still something.
When I do feel up for it or when inspiration hits me, I settle myself down with brushes and canvas. I’ve been painting for other people recently. My therapist suggested I try painting what I feel or what comes to mind. Maybe what I see during nightmares. I haven’t gotten to that point yet, but I do believe it would help.
2. Stories to tell?
Okay, so this isn’t for everyone. Some people can’t stand to read or write, but it’s something I love to do. I’ve been working on a book for years now. It’s been a long process and still ongoing. Recently, I’ve been more focused on providing content for this blog. But, I have tons of ideas for my stories whirling in my head. Even if it doesn’t make sense to anyone else, write that story.
3. Got a journal?
Writing has always been a way for me to solidify my thoughts. When I needed to discuss something important with someone, I tended to write my thoughts down first. Sometimes it’s chicken scratch on a scrap of paper and other times it’s typed up and formatted.
A previous counselor of mine suggested I try writing down the negative thoughts I had during the day and next to them write the rational response. I would do this each night, documenting how my brain argued with itself.
There are so many ways to journal. It could be giving a go at poetry. Or it could be making lists.
Whatever helps you relax.
4. Like to get a little dirty?
Take that however you please 😉
For me, I’ve been enjoying time outside in the garden. It’s another excuse for the creative side of my brain to squeal in glee. Put on some ratty clothes, throw on a sun hat, plop down in the grass, and go to town.
This is a work in progress, but boy was it fun! There’s nothing like feeling the earth between your fingers and swallowing bugs by accident.
5. Go outside much?
Nature really does heal. Forget the bugs and dirt, and embrace the way the wind touches your skin. Breathe in the fresh air. Take some pictures to remind you how you felt in that moment.
My father loves hiking. I’ve gone out a few times with him and although I complain about my sore feet, I honestly enjoy the experience. Walking through undisturbed land, witnessing the beauty of nature, is something else.
Although tired and sweaty, most of the time, I feel so energized after.
6. Can you take my photo?
Something I’ve come to love is photography. I am by no means good at it, but I love browsing through the photos after and reminiscing. Plus, it’s fun messing with editing options and trying to get the best shot.
7. Have a pet?
I love my fur baby snuggles. Holding them close to you face and giving them smooches, much to their detest, is hella comforting. When I’m having a bad day or moment, I go into their designated room and get some good old cat time.
If you have a cat or dog, play with them. Sit and watch TV with them.
Talk to them. They’ll probably look at you like you’re weird, but they love you.
Pet therapy is very real and very useful.
8. Do you even lift bro?
I am personally not one to voluntarily make way for the gym, not usually. But exercise is a great way to get your mind off things, and you’ll feel better after too! Okay, so your glutes may be screaming at you any time you sit down and you might have to rub down with Icy Hot, but it’s worth it.
If your definition of working out is walking the block, walk that block. If you like shopping, make a marathon out of it. Window browse as you circuit the mall. Have an old bike in your garage? Sit on that uncomfortable seat and wobble down the lane.
If all you can muster to do is horizontal running, put some music on and run!